To develop Non-Judgmental Self Awareness, imagine making friends with someone. To get to know this individual, you ask questions to learn about them from a place of authentic curiosity. This step is important because as we move forward, you are going to redefine your relationship with yourself. This is a statement to help guide the process of redefining your relationship with yourself and how you experience your emotions.
“I am learning my unspoken rules about managing my emotions” How you treat yourself when it comes to experiencing your emotions may not even have originated with you, they may have come from someone else. There have been times in my life that, through reflection, I realized that some rules I developed about living life originated with me, while other rules about life came from other people, organizations, etc. around me. External experiences and expectations become internalized within as a rule, a way to live life – the “unspoken rules” for how you live your life. You don’t necessarily openly talk about them as rules, but they are there as the confines within which you live your life! You may not even know that these rules are there, but if you want to gain awareness about your unspoken rules, including how they impact your emotions, reflect on what your “should” and “must” statements are when it comes to yourself, how you experience your emotions, and how you feel like you have to interact with others and ultimately live your life. What do you should all over yourself about? That’s a rule. Explore where it came from. Is that needed? Do you really want that? Is it helpful? Are you willing to change that rule now that you are consciously aware of it?
You are going to learn a lot about yourself because you are worth getting to know. You matter and you are worth discovering your free self, instead of believing you that are “your own worst enemy.”
