A sober mindset with Intentional living also encourages flexibility. Life doesn’t always go according to plan. It can be disappointing, frustrating, angering- and that’s okay. Feel your feelings. Give yourself permission to process and experience your emotions in the moment, and then choose a helpful behavior. The key is to adapt and make decisions that honor your present needs. Sometimes, this means letting go of rigid expectations and embracing a moment of self-compassion. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about learning to be well.
Living with intention helps you avoid the All-Or-Nothing/Black-and-White mindset that can sabotage progress. If you slip or make a mistake, focus on what you can do right now to move forward. If it helps to use the following as a guide and write it out into separate categories, please give it a try:
God/Creator/Higher Power/Higher Self
Grant me the serenity (peace) in the following actions:
Acknowledge and Accept the things I cannot change by understanding my clear boundaries and what’s out of my control:
Take courage and action to change the things I can by acknowledging and accepting my clear boundaries and what’s in my power, and then I will do those things:
I open myself up to receive the Wisdom and Peace to know the difference between these things, even as I have written it here in front of me. I will continue to grow in understanding my clear boundaries. I will release what’s not in my control or power, even when that makes me hurt, frustrated, sad, or resentful.
I will learn to do these things in this moment and every moment it’s needed. I will give myself the grace to come back to this, if necessary, as many times as I need it.
Recovery, developing a sober mind, and Intentional Living, after all, is not about perfection—it’s about persistence. “I have the power to intentionally change my life moment by moment. It’s not too late, even when it feels like it. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about learning to be well.”
